Archive for ‘friends’

April 8, 2014

It’s Time to Say Goodbye

by thebirdieflies




Had our Farewell a few days back. Over here, a farewell is different from a convocation, with the latter being more formal and held after our degrees have been awarded.

A farewell is just an excuse to dress up, take lots of photos, get together with your batchmates and your juniors, and have fuuuuun.

It was a good night.

And I love the sari. ūüôā

August 27, 2013

It Has Been a While

by thebirdieflies

It really has, hasn’t it? I even forgot what to type into my browser today, when I decided at last to tell my blog readers that I am indeed alive and kicking.

A lot has happened in the past three, four, five, months.

My on again, off again relationship with A has finally stabilized to an ‘off’ state. And I found a way to be okay with that.

I have more or less decided on what I want to do with life. I have decided that perhaps pursuing a PhD is really what I want to do, apart from trekking and photography and baking. ¬†Towards that end, I gave the GRE and did pretty well by most standards.¬†But, maybe it’s not time for a PhD right now, maybe after a few years, once I’m certain that I can produce some original research.

I made a new set of incredible friends, and somehow fell in love with them. That also made me resolve to try hard to make my other friendships stronger.

I lost one of my grandmothers. I still haven’t come to terms with the fact that I will never see her again. I don’t know how to.

I stayed in a new city for two months, and fell in love with it. I’m back home now, but memories of the amazing times I had there will stay with me forever.

I don’t know if I will be blogging regularly. I am trying to cut out crap from my life, such as extended periods of Facebooking, in order to make time for more meaningful things. It will be my last year in college, and I want to spend it such that when I go away, I will miss the place. I realized recently that missing a place, or people doesn’t mean that you lost something – it means that you lost something that, for a while, made your life really amazing. It is better to love wildly and lose a part of you and hurt badly, than to move through life without feeling anything, neither hurt, nor pure happiness.

January 10, 2013

Christmas cards

by thebirdieflies

It has been nearly a month since I posted a¬†Christmas¬†card to Drunken Archer. However, it seems like she may not have received it ūüė¶

I put in a fair amount of work into this card, and I wouldn’t like for her to not even get to see how it looked, so tada! There you go –

A Christmas Card for Taiwo

I hope you like in. It became slightly messy, but the tree is a nice one, innit? ūüėÄ

January 8, 2013

Mon Anniversaire

by thebirdieflies

My birthday wasn’t as awesome as I had hoped it would be.

It started off on the wrong foot. My friend reminded me that I would be receiving a lot of phone calls at midnight, and my first instinct was dread. I dreaded the awkward phone calls from friends who aren’t exactly friends. With whom I don’t talk much. At least not on phone.

I dreaded conversations with little content, and fake enthusiasm.
“Happy birthday!”
“Okay bye.”

I got quite a few of those.

The rest of the day followed in these footsteps.

I don’t usually give a lot of importance to birthdays. Why did I have to this time?

July 4, 2012

50 Things to do Before Graduating

by thebirdieflies

I came across a list of 50 things that the website has compiled. Some of them seem interesting.

I’m striking out the ones that I’ve done, and bolding the ones that I think I should do sometime!

1.¬†Feed the campus wildlife –¬†Haven’t done that, but I’ve fed a stray dog or so. Does it count?

2. Have an epic karaoke night at your house using just YouTube, booze, and your natural star quality

3. Go on a date with someone you would normally say no to Рgive them a chance

4. Hand in an essay early

5. Busk on campus for a charity (even if you have zero talent)

6. Teach someone something

7.¬†Read a book that isn’t study-related

8. Hire a bike for a week and see how it works out for youHire a bike? I Own one!

9.¬†Study in every library that exists at your university (like you’re ‚Äėon tour’ – but studying)Only one, hah!

10.¬†Drive to a beach. Swim. (If your uni is miles away from the coast, you’ll just have to stay over) –¬†I just did that in my last vacation! Yay! Didn’t go from the uni though.

11. Make your own booze

12.¬†Go to a university sports team’s game. Get vocal and animated with your support.

13. Have an incredibly elaborate picnic on a uni green space one lunch time

14.¬†Sit in on a lecture that’s completely out of your field, but that you’ve always been fascinated by –¬†Done that! Went to a lecture my friend had to attend – she’s in MED SCHOOL!

15.¬†Join a society for something you’ve always wanted to do, but never got round to

16. Apply for internships and jobs

17. Turn up at a 9 am lecture along with all the other students dressed in your PJs and dressing gowns

18.¬†Go to the careers office and speak to them completely honestly – whatever your thoughts and fears, loves and hates…

19. Go on a weekend country jaunt with friends Рget as remote as possible

20. Start a conga at a big union night. See how long you can get it, before leading it as far from the music as possible (if you can get it to a house party or another club night, you can officially retire from doing stuff. Your work here is done)

21.¬†Go and see the art departments’ end of year shows

22. Go to a play put on by the drama department or a uni society

23. Get involved in a play or some kind of performance (e.g. fashion show, etc.)

24. Visit all historical building and monuments in your town (including churches)

25. Go out sober and dance all night (at least once, repeat as required)

26. Swim in a fountain (campus if possible, town will do)

27. Go paddling on a hot day

28. Hold your own Come Dine With Me with other student houses

29. Take part in a protest

30. Write in to the uni radio station or newspaper

31. Dress up! As a fictional character, an animal Рanything

32. If you think a lecture was particularly good, try and instigate a standing ovation

33.¬†Do something ‚Äď anything! ‚Äď silly, for charity –¬†I thought it was silly but I had to do it anyway, cuz I was volunteering with a charity organization.

34.¬†Give your parents a in depth tour of all the great stuff you do and love at University (It’ll make for an amazing trip for them, and make them feel happy whenever they think of you at uni)

35. Have a sleepover

36. Play an elaborate prank on a housemate

37. Win a pub quiz (whatever it takes)

38. Make a kite and fly it

39. Have an 80s montage house cleaning session, with appropriate outfits and music blaring

40. Go on a blind date

41. Find out the names of all those people you know far too well to not know their names

42. Dye your hair

43. Sleep out under the stars

44. Make a movie starring your friends and your favourite places

45. Celebrate something by doing the classic shake up a bottle of champagne and spraying it all over yourself and everywhere (or at least do it with sparkling wine..!)

46.¬†Make friends with a student from a country you’ve never known someone from or been to before

47. Go inside (and have a little explore of) every building that is part of the university

48.¬†Become a wise mentor for a Fresher doing your course. Tell them what you wish you’d known


49.¬†Learn a new sport or instrument or activity that you never thought you would‘Twas yoga for me!

50.¬†Get loads of discounts, free things and cool stuff by joining the UK’s largest student money saving club¬†, of course! –¬†I don’t live in the UK :/

18 out of 50 is my score!

April 25, 2012

Guess what, I won an award!

by thebirdieflies

Dear Future Me

Look, look, I won an award. It’s this blog’s first. I am extremely proud.

According to the rules, I must link it back to the person who awarded it to me, and then, nominate 6 more bloggers.

Well, I have tried to link it back to the awardee, The Drunk Archer (there, if the above image hyperlink doesn’t work, this one surely will).
And I’m going to say something about her, because this is my blog and I can! ūüėÄ
I don’t quite remember how I found her blog, but what made me hit the Follow button was:
1. She wrote with a lot of wit.
2. She is the only blogger among the the ones I currently follow who is around my age. Or at least, nearEST (since the concept of near is relative. The moon is *near* to earth on the cosmic scale, but still too far for most of us to visit). And she writes about stuff I can really relate to!
3. She posts frequently enough.
4. I like reading what she writes.

I don’t follow too many blogs at the moment, so I might not be able to come up with 6 nominees. ūüėź
And the nominees ARE…!

1. The Drunk Archer – For all of the above reasons and more! Though this might be cheating under the rules of the award, but bah who cares! ūüėÄ
2. Nicole – I may not always agree with what she writes, but it is interesting to read the opposite point-of-view sometimes. Plus, she’s an objectivist (which I like), and her dog’s really cute.
3. Skipping Stones – Lighthearted posts, interesting quotes and photos! Hah.
4. Mehernaz – She’s forgotten to write to me, perhaps this will remind her I exist. I wish she blogged more often. I told A about her emailing me and I read out my favourite parts to him. He didn’t believe I was Not reading out My reply because he said it sounded a lot like how I used to write earlier. :’)

Lots of love
Past Me
P.S. I gave this some thought, and I figured that it should be ‘Present Me’. Because I’m writing in the present and addressing it to someone in the future. Either I address it to the present, then it would be by someone in the past; but not this past/future limbo (in fact, the part between past and future IS the present).

September 27, 2011

Best Friends

by thebirdieflies

There is a school of thought that believes that a boy and a girl can never have an entirely platonic relationship. I am not talking about situations where the two are related, of course.
I am talking of friends, childhood friends, good friends, best friends.

I think it is scientifically justified, if you consider those things that make you like (platonically) your friend, and another boy who you like un-platonically.
Just for fun, let’s use maths to prove it.
Let x be the set of all things that make you like someone platonically and y be the set of all things that make you like someone un-platonically.
It is often observed that a considerable portion of the two sets overlap.

This makes me conclude that many of the things that we like in a person, whether we like that person platonically or not, are universal.